A Heart 4 Business: What if the negative person is my wife? DanMiller

Two weeks ago my podcast theme was Stay Away From Negative Friends. I talked about my 3-hour rule where I’ll spend 3 hours a year with negative friends but certainly not 3 days or 3 weeks on a vacation.

Well, I knew there was the elephant in the room and didn’t address it fully. I have had a whole lot of you ask this question:

I just listened to your podcast about staying away from negative people. What if the negative person is your wife?

I got both – what if it’s my wife, and what if it’s my husband?

Some of you may be hearing:

We can’t afford to take a risk right now.
We don’t have the money.
You don’t have the time.
It can’t be done like that.
Someone else is already doing that.
You don’t know where to begin.
Better be safe than sorry.
You’re not that good.
You’ve failed in your last 3 ideas – why would this one be different.
You’re just a dreamer – not a doer.
You don’t have the credentials.
You’re not a leader.
You can’t compete with Dave Ramsey, Michael Hyatt, Pat Flynn or John Lee Dumas.
You’re too old – you’re too young.
You don’t have the right degrees.

Sometimes it’s the people closest to us that want us to stay as we are. Where new growth and change may be threatening or a painful reminder to that person that they are feeling stuck.

So before Joanne and I sit down and really combine our thoughts on this, I’d like to hear from you. What are your tips for dealing with a less than supportive spouse when you are ready to pursue your dream?

I’ll share on an upcoming podcast and in a post like this as well. If you want to remain anonymous that’s fine – just let me know. You can add your comments here or email me privately at askdan@48Days.com.

Thanks for your wisdom and insight on this important topic.